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December 19, 2009

A real stupid move a Liberalized divorce solution still it only seems like a cheap solution

 

  besides the fact spouses of divorce and their children tend next to have more costly too health problems… many divorce women and their children end up on social aid too.. 
 
 How many of you do now know that Politicians, not just many people, can be realy stupid, they can offer stupid advice in reality.. such as go on with your life..

 

Well the so called cold, indifferent experts now say have an easy  divorce and just move on.. but the too often grim reality in the news  is not so.. for when one spouse unexpectedly files for divorce the other one often can get violent, as well as the spouse who does not like the future as she sees it.. and next the damage done before anyone can deal with it .. a more  easy divorce will not help here. 

  

http://cnews.canoe.ca/CNEWS/Canada/2010/02/03/12719501-sun.html  Dead kids’ dad in bitter divorce CANOE –   EDMONTON – The father of two young children found dead in the bathtub of their Millet home was so worried his estranged wife would take them to her hometown in Australia that he took their passports, according to court

 http://www.cbc.ca/canada/calgary/story/2010/02/02/edmonton-millet-suspicious-deaths.html  Boys found dead on floor of Alberta house CBC.ca  Police were called to this house in Millet, Alta., on Monday afternoon after a family member discovered the bodies of two children inside. (CBC) A woman who lives near a house that is the focus of a suspicious-death investigation in an Edmonton-area

 
 http://edmonton.ctv.ca/servlet/an/local/CTVNews/20100201/edm_millet_100201/20100202/?hub=EdmontonHome”  Father discovers boys’ lifeless bodies in Millet home: family friend  CTV.ca  An unnamed friend of the family tells CTV News the father of two young boys discovered their lifeless bodies inside a Millet home where police are currently investigating two suspicious deaths. A friend of the family, who wishes to remain anonymous,
 
 http://www.calgaryherald.com/Dead+tots+parents+custody+battle/2516480/story.html   Dead tots’ parents in custody battle Calgary Herald – T hey were born 12000 kilometres and just 18 days apart — one in a suburb of Sydney, Australia, and the other in Calgary. They were both 27 when they met in November 2005,
 
 http://www.timescolonist.com/Parents+fought+over+slain+kids/2516180/story.html  Parents fought over slain kids Victoria Times Colonist -A neighbour put a bouquet of flowers next to two teddy bears on the front yard of a house in Millet, Alta., where two young boys in a custody dispute were found dead. The parents of two young boys found dead in their home southeast of Edmonton were
 
http://www.google.com/hostednews/canadianpress/article/ALeqM5ic8K1cUSLvQGntTxbTkItQ_Gr4lw  Reports say two Alta tots found dead in bathtub; police tight lipped The Canadian Press -MILLET, Alta. — Two boys found dead in a quiet farming community south of Edmonton were reportedly discovered by their father in the bathtub of their family home. RCMP are only confirming the discovery of two bodies in the town of Millet.
 
http://www.vancouversun.com/news/thewest/Bodies+found+home/2510389/story.html”  Bodies found in home Vancouver Sun – Taylor Bendig – A van leaves the scene following a report of two suspicious deaths at a home in Millet, Alberta, on Monday, Feb 1, 2010. EDMONTON — The RCMP major crimes unit and a forensic team are investigating
 
 http://www.ctv.ca/servlet/ArticleNews/story/CTVNews/20100202/alta_suspiciousdeaths_100202/20100202  Freind  identifies two boys found in Alberta home CTV.ca –  A family friend has confirmed that the bodies found in a small-town Alberta residence Monday afternoon are that of two young boys, discovered by their father in the home’s bathtub. The friend, who asked to remain unnamed, confirmed to CTV Edmonton that
 
 http://www.edmontonsun.com/news/alberta/2010/02/02/12710236.html Neighbour recalls dead children ‘horror’ Edmonton Sun  Jayden and Connor McConnell in an undated photo. The boys were found dead in their Millet home Feb. 1. Curtis McConnell and sons in an undated photo. Allyson McConnell inset. Two boys were found dead in their Millet home
  

EDMONTON – Autopsies have confirmed that two young boys found dead in their Millet home were slain, RCMP said  in the double-homicide that has rocked the small town about 50 km south of Edmonton.  The boys’ father, Curtis McConnell, had found them apparently drowned in the bathtub shortly after 3 p.m. Monday.  The 31-year-old dad was estranged from his wife, Allyson McConnell, also 31. She’s recovering in hospital from an apparent suicide attempt around 2:30 p.m. Monday in south Edmonton.  Allyson had suffered broken bones after jumping from the Gateway Boulevard overpass onto the eastbound lanes of Whitemud Drive. The parents were going through a bitter divorce that revolved around custody of their boys. Allyson wanted to take the kids to her native Australia to live likely with her parents, while Curtis was against the idea, according to court documents.  “The questions go through your head. How do we move on? Why did it happen? Why now? Nothing can undo what has happened.  .”  McConnell  wrote late Tuesday: “I need answers to unanswerable questions.”   

  Imagine this stupidty also that the cops who as many of us do know already themselves are some of the most screwed up persons in the world will be offering marriage advice, counseling..

 

The B.C. government needs to make fighting domestic violence a greater priority, a Victoria police officer said for too many people are dying as a result of domestic violence,  and  negotiations are currently underway to develop a very costly and very likely infective still too  regional domestic violence team that includes members of the area’s four municipal police departments, the RCMP, legal officials and members of anti-violence service groups and there is not a lot of extra money available anyway from the governments.  Alberta is now spending $1.5 million over three years to pair police with social workers to intervene in situations of domestic abuse. It is hoped the extra resources under the pilot program will provide a tailored response to families identified as high risk for repeated domestic violence. The team will focus on families who have had repeated incidents of domestic violence reported to police and who want to make changes before the courts become involved. “We want to provide support and resources before violence occurs and before they find themselves entering the justice system”.. Dream on..  the losers, the Police providing  martial support, they themselves are the ones with one  of the highest divorce rates amongst the professionals. Physician heal thyself first applies here too.  But that is just a beginning of the many extra costs too.  An Alberta threat assessment report says that between 2000 and 2006, more than 500 Canadian women were shot, stabbed, strangled or beaten to death by their intimate male partners. Those numbers are five times more than all of the Canadian soldiers and police officers killed in the line of duty during that same time period, the report said. The ministry of the Attorney General has been reviewing changes to the way the province addresses domestic violence, but isn’t convinced a single province wide model is the correct approach, it is very costly to put all of these people in jail. Domestic violence cases represent the second-largest share of prosecutors’ files, after  speeding, impaired driving, drugs..

Almost no members of the local police forces have completed specialized training on domestic violence, marriage counselling as their own lives reflect it too. A police Chief had promised his members will complete a mandatory, one-day online training program by next spring… ha ha ha.. really absurd.  How stupid, foolish can the Police now even get for if a one day online computer course can help a policeman, could not the citizens take the same online course? Absurd, really ludicrous. 

 

Speaking about screwed up cops.. who often are falsely covered up for too.. falsely vindicated.

 

 Vancouver police chief statement on wrongful arrest Vancouver Sun –  Last night I went to the home of Mr. Yao Wei Wu to apologize personally and on behalf of the Vancouver Police Department for the injuries and trauma he and his family have experienced after he became the victim of mistaken identity.

An outside police force will investigate allegations against five current and former Manitoba RCMP officers accused of offences ranging from fabricating evidence to torture. The charges relate to complaints filed in civil and criminal court by a Portage la Prairie man. Matthew Gray, 47, filed complaints against up to 15 RCMP officers after he was handcuffed and jolted multiple times with a Taser stun gun in June 2003. In October, a provincial court judge agreed there’s enough evidence to proceed with charges against five of the officers. http://www.cbc.ca/canada/manitoba/story/2009/12/21/mb-gray-taser-rcmp-lawsuit-manitoba.html
 

 It was recently announced that the Police in BC and Alberta would provide marital counseling, family help.. thisnext was, is the expected result of such police activities..  VANCOUVER, B.C. – Vancouver’s police chief has personally apologized to a man who was mistakenly arrested and roughed up by plainclothes officers responding to a domestic abuse call. The officers responding to the abuse call went to the wrong address in the same building, and Wu says he was pulled outside and beaten, suffering cuts and a swollen eye. Two Vancouver plains clothes police officers were responding to a domestic assault call when they knocked on the door of Yao Wei Wu. The officers had the correct building — but the wrong apartment. When they knocked on Yao Wei Wu’s door, they had woken him up. He came to the door — and the police roughed Wu up.  Yao Wei Wu’s said he was hit multiple times on the back, head and face, and he had not resisted them because they were armed. Apparently the officers only realized their mistake when they had cuffed Yao and asked his name. Yao also had said that  the officers failed to ask him for identification before they began to beat him.  Chief Jim Chu is also backing away from an earlier police statement that the victim, Yao Wei Wu, was injured while resisting arrest.  Chu says that information was prematurely released as fact. A Vancouver police investigation of the incident is being overseen by the Office of the B.C. Police Complaints Commission. of course the department will be doing its OWN investigation…..what a joke. Please…….! When are we going to start charging these boozos with assault? I am personally sick & tired of these goons getting away with this kind of behaviour. Like when the RCMP welcomed that poor polish guy to Canada at the Vancouver airport. These people should NOT be above the law! The old boys club is alive and kicking………”Raise a glass boys, once again we proved we are above the law”

Vancouver police retract statement about beaten man CBC.ca

The Vancouver Police Strike Again: Another Citizen Takes a Beating Pacific Free Press  here is obviously a systemic problem with not only the VPD but policing throughout Canada where decades of criminality and impunity on the part of police forces has, in combination I suspect with too much television viewing and alcohol abuse, conspired to produce a generation of police who have no concept of the old saw “to serve and protect.” The situation of out of control cops, who feel just fine going ballistic on hapless citizens, especially ones of the poorer and darker-hued varieties is not helped by the silent complicity of politicians, and the kid glove treatment meted out by the media.

News1130 – CTV.ca – Globe and Mail – Global BC

 WINNIPEG (CBC) – A Manitoba RCMP officer has been charged with assaulting his wife. Const. Dennis Hart, 44, was arrested just before 3:30 a.m. on Saturday after RCMP officers in Gimli, about 80 kilometres north of Winnipeg, were called to the Misty Lake Lodge & Conference Centre. A woman at the lodge told officers she had been assaulted by her husband, RCMP said. The woman did not require immediate medical treatment for her injuries. Hart, an eight-year RCMP member, has been charged with assault, assault causing bodily harm and choking to overcome resistance.  He was released from custody on a promise to appear in Gimli provincial court on Jan. 25. Hart, who is posted at the Fisher Branch detachment, about 95 kilometres northwest of Gimli, has been placed on administrative duties pending an internal review.  http://ca.news.yahoo.com/s/cbc/091221/canada/canada_manitoba_mb_rcmp_officer_assault_manitoba

Alberta Mountie charged with assaulting man in police cells  Canada.com –  An Alberta RCMP officer is facing assualt charges stemming from an incident at a Lac La Biche, Alta., jail cell. EDMONTON – An RCMP constable has been charged with assault, causing bodily harm and obstruction of justice. . Const. Desmond Sandboe an eight-year member of the RCMP, is has also been charged with obstruction of justice. There were witnesses to the alleged assault.The response team was called in to investigate after a man was injured in the cell area at the Lac La Biche detachment in September.

RCMP officer charged with assaulting man in police cells Edmonton Journal
  
 
 
“Unfortunately, I was in an abusive relationship for years. I called the police in a panic more than once. When the police showed up they forced my children and myself out of the house, into a women’s shelter. My little girl was beat up by a 12 year old boy, who knows what that poor kid has been through in his life. We were forced to leave the Shelter, they didn’t want to deal with what happened to us. The police called social services and they came by to talk to me. when I was finally able to find a place to live. Five weeks later. The only thing the social worker did for my family was to hand us a little pamphlet that says “Street Survival Guide” Where are these magical services? How did a person coming to my house giving me a guide to educate me on being homeless on the street help us? I was disgusted, disappointed and insulted. Was mileage charged? Couldn’t someone just mail me this pamphlet? There are no services for women and children in dire straights. By the way I worked full time during this time and washed up in gas stations and ate fast food. Its hard to eat properly when there is no place to boil water”.    ” Only 1.5 Million Dollars ?   The severance packages of former Health Care employees are have been for much larger amounts. Stelmach, you are such a dummy…. ”  ” $1.5 Million (M) new money to combat domestic violence. $2.5 Billion (B) in new money to oil and gas companies to bury waste (carbon capture). I’m glad to see we have our priorities. ”  ” I agree with you and have seen this sort of thing time and again. The appearance of acting without actually doing anything.  ” http://www.cbc.ca/canada/calgary/story/2009/12/04/calgary-domestic-violence-funding.html
  

ONE OF THE MOST COMMON, POPULAR TOPICS, SEARCHES ON THE INTERNET is can a Christian next get divorced and remarried, and the simple answer is no! but wait do not stop reading yet.. for if you are married, living to a demon, a control freak, a liar, a lazy good for nothing abusive person then please now do immediately get out of the marriage, do get an immediate  separation.. and this not the kind of advice you would expect from a preacher of peace  and love, but I am telling you all  this for our own good, and  you can thank me later.. and maybe next the still good for nothing bum, lousy spouse, he or  she will wake up as  to what she is really like and they may try to get help to change herself, himself.. but meanwhile don’t feel guilty about the peace you now have in your life.. By the way make sure first you are not the creepy, a good for nothing spouse yourself otherwise by your actions you will be doing your own spouse a great, great  service.. https://thenonconformer.wordpress.com/2009/01/02/divorce-and-remarriage-in-the-christian-church/

 
So what is the solution?
 
Many Spouses usually accuse the other  one of what they are guilty themselves, and that is why they are so conscious of it often.. On the disintegration of Canadian family,  society. Many can see now what’s broken but they  don’t know how to how to fix it.  The diagnosis is much easier than the cure. For  the cure may involve personal changes, actions that many would prefer to avoid.  They all mostly would like to avoid being discomfited personally, verbally and socially. A real valid first possible cure for our nation’s family ills too is neither new nor complicated, it is a very simple concept: Merely first replace those in power. Why? Simply  you must admit that their own  proposed solution is still also clearly inadequate and will not rectify the family problem but rather escalate it. A liberal divorce procedure with good intentions even   may in theory allow supposedly peace next into the broken Home? In reality DO DREAM on  for the root problem of the individuals personal unhappiness has not been dealt with, even their  own laziness ,  unrealistic expectations, negative charactheristics too.  People divorced once are likely next to be divorced 3 times.. and there has to be real negative consequences associated with it now too including their personal real next loss of fortunes, job income, productivity, pension savings, health and life insurance , loss of dental insurance too.
 
But next not only will the number of family violences increase, so will the number of alcoholics, you will also get  more single moms on social aid, and also the divorcees tend to live a shorter life, pay less taxes overall,  and they  tend to be often more sicker than the long term married couple.. all causing a big costly burden on the social, Medicare system now next too. 
 
The police  already presently, and the social workers too now are unable to handle the many domestic family calls, and what will they do when the family violence next escalates with the too easy divorce, when  because the husband finds out his wife is considering divorce, he now feels he is being cheated, has been lied too, he now is being robbed, he has been taken in, he has been abused and the negative anger, his rage just increases and builds up.. so  often into family violence. ” the husband was embroiled in a fight over the ownership of the family home,   he was jealous after finding his wife in a bathroom with another man, and   he had a bad relationship with his mother-in-law”…  sadly all very typical these days too…
 
Yeah in Theory Iraq was going to be free and prosperous when the dictator was removed, but what happened to that  liberalized society next? what the Increase of Violence.. but they were promised peace, prosperity, freedom initially.. and very few divorcees find it too..
 
A real stupid move a Liberalized divorce solution still it seems like an overall  cheap solution, but it is very costly next overall.. very costly for the state too.. someone really needs to look at this plan and come up with something better. Or are they all there really that stupid still now? The police services are costly, ineffective too often, and a bad solution for most things anyway..
 
It  firstly is always Better not to have married the fool and next to Learn to live with your spouse.. no one is perfect.

 

 
 
see also
http://postedat.wordpress.com/2008/07/07/control-freaks/  
http://thefocusonthefamily.wordpress.com/2008/07/17/the-too-common-abusive-silent-treatment/
http://thefocusonthefamily.wordpress.com/2008/08/12/more-about-control-freaks/
http://thefocusonthefamily.wordpress.com/2008/07/03/verbal-abuse-is-always-unacceptable-too/
http://thenonconformer.blogspot.com/2008/12/coping-with-bad.html
 

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